Get Started Today- Believe In You

How many time have I tried losing weight? I have lost Count.

Just like so many other people in this world I am one of those that has struggled with my weight since I was young. It seems I’ll get started on my new “diet” or “watching what I eat”and a birthday or holiday comes around. I will either over indulge because I say” It’s only one day”, or I punish myself by not even looking at food that day and making myself miserable so later on I have a melt down and well,over indulge anyway.

I wish I had that will power that some people have to stay away from food. Earlier this year I stopped drinking alcohol and that has helped some so,I don’t think I am doing everything wrong, but it can be quite depressing when you hop on the scale after a week of being good and you hit a plateau. I am there at 209lbs. Yes, I was 226 and lost some weight, and now have I just maintained for the last 2 weeks. So I thought why not try something different; instead of running to the fridge, I am going to blog. I hope this works and I would love any feedback you all would like to give. I will also post the things that are working for me here if you want to continue to read.

I almost didn’t put my weight on here because I was afraid someone I know will read this and ”oh, my god, what will they think about my weight” and then I realized that it is just a number, so go for it. I am soooooo tired of worrying about what other think of me. I just want to feel better.

The only time I was ever successful in losing weight(besides when I ran cross country in high-school) was when I started taking responsibility for my own actions. That was a little over 3 years ago and I had joined Weight Watchers (which I think is an incredible program), we had a 3 month trial in our little home town, and I actually was the biggest loser, which is a good thing when you are losing weight! I lost 30lbs and got myself down to 180lbs which isn’t small, but oh boy did I feel better.

Then I got pregnant with my 3rd and final child and since then I have pushed myself into a slump again. The pregnancy wasn’t the only reason I believe I started gaining again: my job was sent to another country, my husband got laidoff and gosh darn it, I just got depressed!

Do I have it as bad as some people, No. I do feel pretty lucky. I have healthy children and my husband went to school and is about to open a local shop in town he named Exact Marketing Formula LLC for Hosting, WebDesign,SEO Marketing Video marketing and more…I am very proud of him and myself because it’s been a long journey. It takes alot of patience when everyone around you (even Family) doubt your abilities to make your dreams come true. It is a hard time to start a business but when so many jobs are leaving the Country, sometimes it’s just better to be “The Man” instead of “Working for the Man.” We shall see!

Anyway I am ready to take that step in my life to get healthy and I now believe you have to be in the right mind to do those things that seem more difficult even if it’s as easy(lol) as losing weight. I want to be here for a long time and I want to see my children grow and play. I want to run with my children….at 209 lbs that is not easy. So hopefully the next several posts will be me in that positive place that has alluded me for too long now.

I also hope that I can inspire others realize that they are not alone and they are capable of so much. It is extremely hard to do things we are not use to doing but we must take responsibility of ourselves. Only you have the capability to change your mind and your actions.

Sometimes it feels like I am all alone too, then I open up to my husband and kids and realize they were there all along, it was me who had shut down. We all have bad days and it can be difficult, on those days try writing down what is bothering you then read it back to yourself. If you have a strong emotional reaction to what you have written you should address it. It may take time but every day that you face what makes you unhappy is the slow recovery to actually being happy.

Whether it’s me losing weight (I’ve dropped from 226 to 209) or my husband starting his own business (click the link to check that out) http://www.exactmarketingformula.net/ , we have stuck together, sometimes it’s not easy but every day you should get up and say to yourself “I AM WORTH IT”.

How do I feel?

Jessica Quinif

What kinda question is that?

It seems any more that I wake up and maybe 2 days out of the 7(there are still 7 days in the week right?) I feel pretty good. The other 5, just not sure I like this getting older thing. I mean when I was young I wanted to be old right (maybe not old but at least 21) and now I can’t slow that damn clock down! Gonna be 37 this year and I have 3 kids Hailey(9), Hayden(4), & Holden(2). They don’t seem to understand in the least bit that Mommy’s is starting to aches in places where she didn’t even know exsisted means give me 5 minutes Please! It’s all good I suppose I knew it had to catch up with me some day, I just wasn’t quite ready for it to happen. Anywho; If you have similar woes throw me a line and let me know what is going on!

Coughing Surgery?

Hayden (4)

Okay, so my son asks for some hard boiled eggs for dinner…I think no problem, I cooked some the day before; already made AWESOME . He goes to the table and have you ever heard the expression “Ants in the Pants”? I don’t know where my son gets his energy but he can’t sit still; ever! So, he’s eating this egg and wolfs it down then starts on another one….no big deal right? Well it probably wouldn’t have been a problem except he kept getting up and down from the table and squirming around like a wiggle worm and he started choking. The coughing didn’t last long but any parents worst nightmare is when they hear one of their kids trying to catch a breath when they are choking on something….so he is fine I didn’t even have to pat his back on this one and I start giving him the “LECTURE”!

I explain to him if he would’ve sat still while he was eating and not shoved half an egg in his mouth maybe he wouldn’t have choked. He apparently didn’t like my comment because he quickly retorted “No mom, that is not the problem.” He then states “I had surgery today”. As calm as can be.

So…. I wasn’t sure I heard him right but I could feel the corners of my mouth start to curve up because I knew I was about to be blessed with another one of “HAYDEN’s Stories. He then began to tell me that he had gone to the doctors that day to have “Coughing Surgery” and that was why he was coughing, not whatever I said. My anwser just didn’t make sence to him and that my friends put the biggest smile on my face( the kind that you never want to lose). I had a great day today all because my son had “Coughing Surgery”!

Sibling Rivalry

Hi everyone! Just trying to get a handle on things at home…..well that never seems to go over too smoothly. So, how do you stop a 2 year old from tormenting a 4 year old? We are having an issue where my youngest son is harassing my 4 year old son. Granted it’s not 24/7 but it has increased recently and the old in the corner and time-out doesn’t work the same on this little guy as it did with his siblings.

It’s not that Hayden (4 year old) is afraid, he’s just doesn’t want to fight back when his brother starts hitting or wrestling… it’s not in his nature. So, unfortunately it’s going to be up to mom and dad to find a new way to keep the peace. I did figure out a way to stop temper tantrums with my older two, I simply pull out the camera when they are fussing and they instantly straighten up…they don’t like those pictures to go on the fridge or photo albums (he he he).

The other issue I am having with my youngest is biting. I have heard of this being an issue for people to break their kids of , but never had to deal with it with my first two children. It seems that it’s going to be a summer of learning for all of us.

If you have any advice on these subjects or just want to leave a comment it would be appreciated!

Thanks for reading,

Jessica

Fall is Here

Fall is here, football is in full swing, and the leaves are falling.

TRY YOUR NAME IN JAPANESE:

got this on FaceBook it’s pretty fun!

TRY YOUR NAME IN JAPANESE:
A= ka, B=tu, C= mi, D= te, E= ku, F=lu, g= ji, H= ri, I= ki, J= zu,
K= me, L= ta, M= rin, N= to, O= mo, P= no, Q= ke, R= shi, S= ari,
T= chi, U= do, V= ru, W=mei, X= na, Y= fu, Z= zi…….then paste
ur Japanese name in the comments… ) ……… share this……its FUN

Dear Congress

DEAR CONGRESS, Last year I mismanaged my funds and this year my family and I cannot decide on a budget. Until we have come to a unified decision that fits all of our needs and interests we will have to shut down our checkbook and will no longer be able to pay our taxes. I’m sure you’ll understand. Thank you very much for setting an example we can follow.. Please repost if you agree…

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Coping With Loss…

Hello everyone.

This has been a tough year for me and my family. We have been to four funerals since January. My husbands sister Heather passed on Jan. 31st along with my grandfather the same day. My Husband’s uncle died a week later. Then, June 28th, my husband’s father, James Chester Mears passed away.

We have been very fotunate in not having to deal with death for many years and it shakes you up when it comes knocking on your doorstep.

Trying to explain it to the kids is the worst. Just imagine how bad we feel as adults when we lose someone close let alone the kids trying to understand. It never seems to make you feel better to have someone tell you “they aren’t suffering anymore”and I actually found myself using these words this week to help a few of the neices and nephews with their grieving.

Sometimes it’s so hard to say the right thing in situations of loss, but I find that if you just keep it short and heartfelt the meaning is well deserved.

This year has strengthened us as a family making us realise what is important in life. Material things can not be taken with us, so take advantage of time. So many people are running on fast forward these days it’s hard to just slow it down. It’s almost an extra effort to say a few nice words to the ones you love. Trust me, you never know when something bad is going to happen and having the faith that you have done what you can to bring just a little joy to another….there’s no feeling like it.

I am grieving, and yes I am glad that those we have lost aren’t suffering anymore……..but I will forever miss them.

Thank you,